Diamante en bruto ~ Uncut diamond
Hoy estaba hablando con dos de mis amigas acerca de una persona que conocí hace algunos meses, una persona que me ha tenido un poco confundida, un poco triste incluso este último par de días. A esta persona yo la veo como un diamante en bruto. Es una persona hermosa, tiene muchas cualidades, así como defectos, y eso bien lo sabe él, y lo sé yo también. El problema para mí es que, como veo el diamante, a veces me olvido que está en bruto, y cuando me acerco a veces salgo herida :( Qué hacer? No sé. A veces pienso que es mejor alejarme del diamante, al parecer no tengo las habilidades para sacarlo de su piedra... A veces pienso que me tengo que lanzar y acercarme con cierta protección pero... si me protejo las manos no podré tocar el diamante. Tampoco creo que la solución sea lanzarme a la vida sin protección alguna, no creo que me merezca el daño...
Una vez más soy un mar de confusión... pero después de conversar con mis amigas y de escribir me siento con más luz, creo que la respuesta correcta viene hacia mí :)
Abrazos para todos!!! Comenten!!! "el comentario es el alimento del bloggista" (frase robada vil y descaradamente de Tefy, jeje)
Today I was talking to two of my friends about a person I met a few months ago, a person that has gotten me a little confussed lately, a bit sad even these last couple of days. This person I see as an uncut diamond. He's a beautiful person, he has many qualities, as well as defects, he knows it and so do I. The problem for me is since I see the diamond, sometimes I forget it's uncut, and when I approach sometimes I get hurt :( What to do? IDK. Sometimes I think it's better to get away from the diamond, it seems I have no abilities to get it out of the rock... Sometimes I think I have to go for it and approach with certain protection but... if I protect my hands i won't be able to touch the diamond. I don't think either that the solution is to go for it bare handed, I don't think I deserve to be hurted...
Once again I'm sunk in confussion... but after talking to my friends and writing I feel with more light, I think the right answer is coming to me :)
Hugs for everybody!!! Make comments!!! "comments are the food of the blogger" (that phrase I stole and translated vile and shamelessly from Tefy, hehe)
Una vez más soy un mar de confusión... pero después de conversar con mis amigas y de escribir me siento con más luz, creo que la respuesta correcta viene hacia mí :)
Abrazos para todos!!! Comenten!!! "el comentario es el alimento del bloggista" (frase robada vil y descaradamente de Tefy, jeje)
Today I was talking to two of my friends about a person I met a few months ago, a person that has gotten me a little confussed lately, a bit sad even these last couple of days. This person I see as an uncut diamond. He's a beautiful person, he has many qualities, as well as defects, he knows it and so do I. The problem for me is since I see the diamond, sometimes I forget it's uncut, and when I approach sometimes I get hurt :( What to do? IDK. Sometimes I think it's better to get away from the diamond, it seems I have no abilities to get it out of the rock... Sometimes I think I have to go for it and approach with certain protection but... if I protect my hands i won't be able to touch the diamond. I don't think either that the solution is to go for it bare handed, I don't think I deserve to be hurted...
Once again I'm sunk in confussion... but after talking to my friends and writing I feel with more light, I think the right answer is coming to me :)
Hugs for everybody!!! Make comments!!! "comments are the food of the blogger" (that phrase I stole and translated vile and shamelessly from Tefy, hehe)
posted by Monicaatje at 2:51 a. m.
16 Comments:
mm.. now that's a dilemma i face sometimes too.. just ask yourself one thing - Are you sure it's a diamond? If the answer is yes, then you know that you will get hurt when you touch it. You expect to get hurt. Believe me, it's not that painful any more :-)
If the answer is no, then you know what to do...
BTW, is this Spanish? I learnt a wee bit of Spanish a while ago.. looks like Mexican Spanish..
i'll make one comment to answer both comments, okay? Sólo un comentario para responder los dos comentarios anteriores....
Chikuado, thanx for visiting and making comments! thank u also for ur comment on this post... i'm sure it's a diamond cuz unfortunatelly that's what i see in him most times (that's why i get hurt when i approach, forget the rough edges). I guess i'll talk to him about it, maybe he can turn around and show me some round edges so i won't get that hurt.
My posts are in psanish, but not mexican tho, i'm chilean :P I dont think mexican and chilean spanish are too simmilar, I myself have some problems comunicating with my mexican friends sometimes, but i guess from outside it's hard to see that much difference.
Evesol de la vida y delamor!!! gracias por el comentario, la verdad no había pensado en eso de que yo tb soy un diamante en bruto... tal vez por eso él de defiende tanto de mí...
No quiero pensar más en esto, espero que sea pronto la hora de irse de vacaciones a Sanvi!!!!
Un abrazo querida mía, espero que nos veamos pronto y gracias por tu apoyo, eres una excelente mosquetera ;)
Te quiero! cariños por tu casa
hmmmm...Now that you are sure that he is an uncut diamond and you know you might get hurt, what are you waiting for our comments?
Have you seen the work of a skilled craftsmen who cut the diamonds. I havent but I'm sure, he would be very careful and happy to see the diamond in the making at every step. But almost all of the times, it doesnt stay with the maker. But does that prevent him from making it or is he feeling so bad?. He just enjoys the process and that experience of making it. Probably, if the work is so so good - work of a lifetime and the maker truly deserves and feels for it, it would be his no matter what !
wow! I hadn't thought of it like that... I guess i'm just too selfish huh?
I think there's much wisdom in ur comment, I will think about it, thanx :)
Hugs!
Google translation on Tchorix comment
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Hello Mon... I am not going to give no advice with respect to this, but if I am going to make some questions. In the case of the people. How polish the diamonds? What is what manages to remove what exceeds? The diamonds are polished by other people, or finally he is one same one who end up polishing? now, in the case that you comment to us, why you think that you are who must polish this diamond? what expectations are those that you believe that salts dañana? in what bases your expectations? you must have expectations? Good, that is what I ask a Tchorix hug at this moment
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Now that was a pretty bad translation by google, but it does not have a Chilean Spanish-English translation :- )
Though I dont clearly what the comment meant, I thought I can let you know on the expectation. Because I always talk about Unconditional Love. It might sound very philosphical and impractical, but all our affection are based on certain expectation from others. In short, conditional. We get hurt because, the pther person does not meet our expectation of him/her. Now, is it the mistake of us or him/her? Monica, when you talked about uncut diamond, those rough edges are probably your expectation of the other person. We generally expose this to the other person and when the expectations are not met, we get hurt. I'm not trying to give you a way/solution, just trying to see it from a different perspective ( which I always like to do). Even when we talk about polishing an uncut diamond, we are talking about polishing our expectations on that person. Arent we? Why should we do it? (dont ask me for answer...am also as normal a person as you and bound by emotions) Am just trying to let you know that, when you feel hurt, just think of it in the above way. You might ease of the hurt easily. :- )
And speaking about Unconditional Love, have you seen the love of a dog -that I will call unconditional. Anytime, its affection towards us does not change at all, whereas ours change according to the moods. One day, we come home and play around with it and the next day, we enter home and on seeing it pouncing on us, kick him. But it will still do the same the next day. Have you seen Mother Cat with kittens. She would teach them everything, to climb, to fight. There would be so much of love displayed. Yet, after a while when the kitten grow, they move away in their own path as if they were not related. Thats the rule of nature. But, we as humans understand so much that we make things more complex :- )......
hmmm...that was quite a big comment.
Monica:
Now, its another part of me that I'm attached to Animals, a natural extension of my love for nature...So you would find a lot of examples from animals...but I guess we have a lot to learn from them....because we have forgotten that we are also one among the many forms of life, except that we have the intelligence to call teh rest Animals and plants :-)
oops I meant
"We generally expose this to the other person and when the expectations are not met, we get hurt."
Well u guys kinda spoiled my surpirse there, didn't u? I guess that has to do with my expectations of surprising u guys, hahaha :P
I was just about to translate a post i wrote about Tchorix's questions.. i guess i will have to prepare an answer for phantom as well, won't i? it's only fair.
Yeap! I'm starting to give people something to talk about, and i thank u all for being such responsive public :P and off course excellent friends :) and great minds and hearts. It feels great, i must say.
so keep'em coments coming, they really make my day =) and i think i'm making some very good progess here :)
Cheers!
Forgot to say. Thanx phaton for translating Tchorix's comment, that was very sweet of u to want to participate of the conversation ;)
Hugs!
No tchorix....I guess I didnt put across my words clearly. Yep, what I wanted to say was that Love can be unconditional but not abusive. When it is unconditional, you give your love without any expectations - the source of our pain and hurt many a times. And am also well aware of the fact that it might sound close to impossible. Well , me a human too you see :-)...The point is when it is unconditional, it is pure. When the expectations are there, we are in some kind of a selfish mode. And I believe a person who atleast understands it would never be abusive. And i guess this unconditional love is always advocated in any religion ( with in my knowledge of various religions ). We humans have that extra sense which actually gives us that expectation ( I wish humans too were as simple as yet another species sometimes)...So for us, it would basically boil down to tolerance and forgiveness !! :- )
Well, i have some things to say! First, i never thought this post would give origin to such interesting convo, hehe.
Second, i also think love is unconditional and all forgiving, that is why it's so hard to REALLY love. What i don't think it that COMPANY should be unconditional and all forgiving. For example, in that example Tchorix brought up I think if a woman is beaten up and cheated by her husband (or viceversa) she can still love him, due to love's all forgiving and unconditional nature, but she doesn't have to STAY with him, she can leave, and still love him. And porobably that will hurt, but what the hell? who said love didn't hurt? Nazareth said the opposite in their song... hehe.
Unfortunatelly we are not always with those we love, for one or another reason...so... i guess we can still love those that are not with us, even if we are the ones who decided to leave.
True.....In fact when you try to hold onto a person who wants to leave you you bsically are trying to exercise your selfishness, trying to satisfy your needs......well...that wouldnt be unconditional and your are hurt....well...but I guess the power of love is in letting the person go and lead their own ways....that dosnt in anyway deter the love you ahve for the other person....
All said ...I know its really hard to practise such a thing as humans.....
Well, wait....what am I doing....here....Am i not talking to a student of Psychology??? oops...Mon, I didnt realise you were a student of Psychology? :- )....oops you shd know better than me :- )))
Hahaha! ROFL after i finished reading ur comment. Being a psychology student doesn't make me know beter (unfortunatelly :P). I'm a regular person, except for the fact i come from a different planet but that doesn't make me wiser :( Darn!
it's so hard to really love someone, let them go and not be hurt. I'm thinking about letting the diamond go, in our best interest... his and mine... i have to admit it hurts like hell tho. I guess i didn't get to love him after all, right?
well... i'm only human, and doing my best.
Thanx P-H-A-N-T-O-M for the comments and the good humor, it's something i always appreciate and find soooooooo uplifting =)
More hugs for u!!!I even feel like sending u my little fish, but u'd never understand that unless we get to meet sometime, if that EVER happens, i promise to do a little fish for u =) U rule!
Be there , done that...And true...it hurts like hell !!! :-)) But i guess its a part of growing up !!! :- )))
Cool....More and more hugs....and I like it !!! Thanks...
But what is this story of sending / doing a fish??? What does that signify?
Oh! the fish thing is just an expression i do for people i really like, so it's kind of an honor actually :P But u'd have to see it, no use on sending it if u've never seen it :(
Wow....me honoured with those words ....doesnt matter if I need to live to see them !!!! :-)) Tx a lot !!!
I wouldnt do any justice if I dont reciprocate the hugs receive....
So heres to u.....
Lots of hugs that wld make you gasp for some air :- ))) hehe !!!
From the cosatal region of chennai that is losing land to the water !!! - getting too close to nature aye !!!
thanx for those tight hugs! :)
so coastal area also? doesn't the sea just rule?
i love living here =)
hugs back to u! and fishes also :P
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